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How do you let go of things from years ago, when you have forgotten how to let it all go to God, knowing that we should trust him?


Thank you so much for contacting us with this honest question.  Most of us have painful memories and it is very important to learn to deal with these, so that we can be free and happy and able to live successfully as Christians today.

First of all, I'd like to point out that our problem is not simply what happened to us in past years, although this may have been very bad. Our problem is also our feelings and thoughts about those events. We may FEEL guilt or anger or shame when we remember what happened. We may THINK that what happened means that we are worthless or that God let us down or that He hates us. But we cannot be guided by our feelings and thoughts about what happened, or we will get in a spiritual and emotional mess. Instead we must be guided by WHAT GOD SAYS.

What God says about you is that He made you in His image.

Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness." (Genesis 1:26)

This means that you were made as a person of great dignity and beauty, who can think and love and be creative and that you were intended to do God's work on the earth. You have great value.

The wrong things that we do, and that others do to us, spoil the image of God in us. We are sinners and we have also been sinned against. Because of this, we experience guilt, shame, sadness, anger and loss. We are damaged people; in fact, we have ruined the image of God in us and are in desperate need of God's help.

God's response was to send Jesus to be our Saviour. He not only died to take the punishment for our sins, but also to make us pure and whole again.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Since we have been recreated into a completely new life in God, we are no longer tied to the past. It is very easy to forget this. Our emotions and habitual thoughts tie us to the painful things that happened and to past sins which may fill us with shame. So we are faced with a choice. Will we believe our own thoughts and emotions, or will we believe what God says? Saint Paul wrote:

But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on towards the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 3:13-14)

There is only one way to do this successfully. Every day, prayerfully get the Word of God into your mind and heart and decide to believe it. When negative thoughts come into your mind, replace them with the Word of God. At first, it will be a struggle but it will gradually become easier to rely on Him instead on your own mistaken perceptions.

Do not try to suppress or deny your emotions. Bring them before God, admit them and ask for His healing and help. Don't try to feel forgiven or peaceful. Just let the Word of God do its work in you, day by day and moment by moment. You are no longer relying on yourself, but on God, and trying and struggling come from you, not from the power of God. As you let His Word work in you, you will learn to live as a new creation.

In summary, if you do not think that you have ever made your peace with God and become a new creation, there is a prayer on this website which you can use in order to become God's own child. If you know that you are a Christian, then you need to learn to live the life of faith by the power of His Word and His Spirit so that you can live free of the past.

You have been born again, not of perishable seed but of imperishable, through the living and abiding word of God. (1 Peter 1:23)

I do hope this general answer to your question goes some way to helping you find peace with God through Jesus Christ our Lord. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site:

In closing, I want to encourage you to get more involved with your local church. It would be good to speak to a Christian leader or another trusted church individual regarding your question. I know they would be delighted to further answer you as well as offer prayer and support as you continue your spiritual journey:

Please use our Interactive Answer Matrix and feel free to ask another question. Our helpful staff are praying for you and waiting to try and answer to you from the Bible, and will be delighted to tell you more about Jesus Christ the Lord, the Saviour of the world.

*All Scripture references are taken From The English Standard Version of the Holy Bible unless stated otherwise

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