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I believe in Jesus but my life has not changed. Can you pray for me?


Thank you so much for asking your question. As a team, we will pray for you and will continue to pray for you as often as I remember you.

Without knowing what life situation it is that you want to change it is difficult to directly speak into your circumstances. I will therefore attempt to give general Christian understanding regarding Spiritual change.

The Bible tells us that before we know Jesus and repent (turn from our sin to follow him) we are living apart from God and are happy to continue in sinful work. There is nothing we can do to completely change ourselves apart from God's help and usually people do not care about their actions. 

And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience— among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. (Ephesians 2:1-3)

For there is no distinction: for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, whom God put forward as a propitiation by his blood, to be received by faith (Romans 3:23-25)

When someone first comes to a knowledge of God it is because he has revealed his love to us through the Good News of the message of Jesus Christ. Jesus came to earth from heaven, being fully God and fully man. He lived a perfect life and showed us how he wanted us to live. Are you looking at Jesus' example of life? Pray that you can be more like Jesus. 

Jesus died on the cross to take the punishment and wrath of God that we deserve. On the cross Jesus paid the spiritual debt of all who would believe in him. The Bible teaches us that if we confess that Jesus is Lord, and believe that God raised him from the dead, then we will be saved. When Jesus was buried, he buried our sin with him. When he was raised he gives new life to all who believe in him. New life now, and new life in the new age to come.

Do you believe that Jesus died for your sin, and buried it, and rose again to give you new life?

For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Since, therefore, we have now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God (Romans 5:6-9)

The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith that we proclaim); because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved. For the Scripture says, “Everyone who believes in him will not be put to shame.” For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek; for the same Lord is Lord of all, bestowing his riches on all who call on him. For "everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved" (Romans 10:8-13)

Then I would encourage you to repent (turn from your sin) and pray for the Holy Spirit to help you. The Holy Spirit is also God, and he dwells inside the new believer to help them live a life that is Holy to God. Without God's help we are helpless to change. Also at this stage I would encourage you to get baptised as a sign that your old life died with Jesus and your new life was resurrected with him. 

Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it? Do you not know that all of us who have been baptised into Christ Jesus were baptised into his death? We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life (Romans 6:1-4)

The change involved in becoming a Christian is first sudden and then gradual.

The sudden part is that we come to a moment when we say for the first time 'YES!!' to Jesus Christ, and we accept Him in our minds and hearts as our Saviour and Lord. That often means facing some particular sin that means so much to us that it has kept us from Christ until that moment. It differs from person to person, but most people have one or two 'darling sins' - other ones are easy to stop but these are hard because we cannot imagine being happy without them. To repent from sin and turn to Jesus often means giving up that 'darling sin' especially.

The gradual part is that we live our lives before God and other Christians and begin to find out the deeper changes needed in our lives. Remember that change comes to us in three areas of our lives especially: our thoughts, our desires, and our choices.

You have already changed in your mind if you have come to believe in Jesus, but more change will come as you understand the Bible and God's ways better and better. If you now desire him you are changing in your emotional life, but our emotions are strange things. We want things we know are wrong, and we don't want things we know are right. We want to love people and do become more loving, for example, but we may still sometimes get angry or spiteful or bitter.

The hardest battle is with our choices, because although we are made spiritually alive (born again) when we become Christians, our bodies are still part of this sinful world and subjected to God's punishment on it in death. So in our spirits we are new people but in our flesh we have to fight being dominated by corruption and the principle of death. We all spend a lifetime changing and feeling we haven't changed enough! 

That is why it is important to gather with other believers in a Gospel preaching Church that remembers who Jesus is and that he is the head of the Church. To listen to the leader's teaching of the Bible and also to pray corporately and on your own and also read the Bible on your own. Also If you are a new believer it is important to pray that the Holy Spirit will give you gifts to serve the Church and Jesus. 

And they devoted themselves to the apostles ' teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. And awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. And all who believed were together and had all things in common. And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need. And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts, praising God and having favour with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved. (Acts 2:42-47)

When we start to allow Jesus to use us for his purposes then we find the purpose that God created us for. 

I do hope this general answer to your question goes some way to helping you find peace with God through Jesus Christ our Lord. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site:

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