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I have accepted Jesus as my Saviour, but I am still not happy. Surely I deserve to be happy and not suffer?


Thank you so much for your honest spiritual enquiry. In responding to you let us first consider the following verses from the Holy Bible:

What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, "I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty."
Since we have these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and spirit, bringing holiness to completion in the fear of God. (2 Corinthians 6:16-7:1)

In these verses then, you, as a child of the Lord Almighty, are not promised a happy life, but rather are commanded to live a holy life of separation from those who live contrary to God's law in all manner of unclean living.

The promise of God toward you when you do this is that you will know three things:

  1. The acceptance and reception of God,
  2. The active and applied Fatherhood of God toward you,
  3. The knowledge of being His child.

Your happiness in the world is not God’s goal for your life. However, your holiness is. That means you draw happiness from your life in Christ and not from the world!

If you came to Jesus with the promise of a happier life in the here and now, then I fear you will be sorely disappointed. Jesus even says that "if anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me." (Luke 9:23). This is no easy task and one that for many people results in persecution for following Jesus and even death.

People who have been convicted of the sin and accepted Jesus as their Lord and Saviour will have an unspeakable joy within them as they realise that the God who loves them lives within them. It is important that we ask ourselves a serious question: are you truly saved?

Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Or do you not realise this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you fail to meet the test! (2 Corinthians 13:5)

If you are unsure as to your salvation, then I urge you to commit your life to Christ. You might want to view the video on the main part of the LookingforGod website and pray a prayer of commitment afterward: Watch the video

Now then, if indeed you are saved, let us turn ourselves to the conditions which are making you so presently unhappy.

Life has the tendency to make us unhappy. Problems with housing, children, spouse, illness, financial lack, betrayal, uncertainties of every kind, getting old, being persecuted, bereavement, grief, wars, disasters, accidents and calamities of every kind, are the common dark matters of this very fallen world of ours which are experienced by everyone, everywhere, all the time. Indeed, there is nothing which has befallen you in this world which is not the common calamity of all mankind.

"I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world." (John 16:32-33)

In summary then, Christ commands you to be courageous and to know that our ultimate victory is found in Him. I wonder if I might expand a little on this verse by suggesting that Jesus is saying in all your difficult circumstances in this world, be confidently courageous as you face them, go through them, overcome them by your faith. Jesus overcame the world, in me, so He will in you. May God grant us all, an inexplicable joy as we, with confident courage, face all the world and all the devil might throw at us, and be found to be over-comers, even more than conquerors through Christ who loved us and gave Himself for us. Let us draw our happiness and satisfaction from the knowledge of Him.

Here are some more Bible Verses for your further consideration:

  • Psalm 144:9-15
  • John 13:13-17
  • 1 Peter 1:2-8

I encourage you to attend a local Bible believing church and speak to the leader about your question. If you want to find a local church, our Church Finder may help you: Find a Church

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*All Scripture references are taken From The New King James Version of the Holy Bible unless stated otherwise

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