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Why is that so many people struggle with grief?


Thank you for your heartfelt question. I am sorry if you are one that struggles with grief. I hope this answer will encourage you and perhaps help you understand why people feel pain.

I understand grief to mean those feelings we experience when we lose something or someone that was close to us. Examples of this can be found in the Bible, where even Jesus cries for someone who has died:

“Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in his spirit and greatly troubled. And he said, “Where have you laid him?” They said to him, “Lord, come and see.” Jesus wept. (John 11:32-35).

The reason we feel pain like this is because we are made in the image of God. We humans have special relationships with God and each other that no other animal has. We have deep emotion and when we lose someone or something we love, it hurts. Death is unnatural; it was never meant to be this way. Due to sin (the wrong we all do) entering the world, it has caused relationships to break down. Grief is part of the result of the broken world that we live in. Feeling grief is not a sinful thing, but the brokenness causes us to feel it.

God knows what it is like to lose someone. His own Son was murdered and separated from him. God can comfort us in times of sorrow. He wants us to know his love and care.

There will come a time when there is no more pain and suffering:

“Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
 And he who was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new" (Revelation 21:3-5)

That is a wonderful image we see of what heaven will be like.

The ironic thing is that Jesus suffered and died for us so that we can go to be with him in heaven. God went through grief, to comfort us in our grief, but also to make a way that we can have new life and eternal life. Trust in Jesus' work and find peace to help in times of pain.

I do hope this general answer to your question goes some way to helping you find peace with God through Jesus Christ our Lord. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site:

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*All Scripture references are taken From The English Standard Version of the Holy Bible unless stated otherwise

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