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I became a Christian through an evangelist and attend their church. They are very controlling. Should I keep attending this church?
Thank you for sending us your question about church leadership and your struggle with some of the character traits. I am pleased that you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour and it is our hope that you will find peace during this time.
Without knowing the evangelist, it may be that they are correct in controlling the church. It may be that there are certain people that are in objection to them, and they must hold control in order to continue the work of God. Similarly, where there are new Christians that are still young in their faith, having a leader with a level of control can help correct people and lead them in the way of Christ. Paul gave an instruction to his friend Titus, where he was to declare these things; exhort and rebuke with all authority. Let no one disregard you (Titus 2:15). This sounds controlling, but it would keep order in the church.
However, it may be that the evangelist that introduced you to Jesus is struggling with a particular sin. Although the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin (1 John 1:7), and that through Christ we are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17), all of us continue to sin because of our fallen nature. When you look at Christians, even those who have been saved for many years, there are still times of sin. We must continue to resist sin and to pursue Christ.
I would encourage you to speak to your church leader and share your concerns. Although this will take confidence, sharing your concerns may allow your leader to share their reasons and both of you may become more like Christ. If, after sharing your concerns, the situation does not improve, and after prayer you feel that you cannot stay in your church, then you may have to attend somewhere else. This however, is a last resort and should only be done after extensive prayer and reflection.
I would also encourage you to pray for your leader. Paul, as a church leader, asked for prayer (1 Thessalonians 5:25) and we must pray that our church leaders would have the wisdom and strength to lead the church in God's way. Pray also for humility to follow your leader's request where it is reasonable and biblical.
In summary, it may be that your leader is correct for the style of leadership that they have. It is possible that they are making sure that your church goes in the direction that God has chosen. However, it may also be that the leader is struggling with a particular sin. This doesn't mean that they should be removed, but it may be helpful to speak to them about their behaviour that concerns you. I also encourage you to pray for your leader.
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