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I want to go to church but I am shy. I'm not sure what people will think of me.


Thank you for getting in touch with us and asking this important question. I am so glad that you would love to go to church again. Many people feel hesitant about going somewhere where they don't know anyone, so your fears are very understandable. I hope you will feel able to overcome your misgivings, however, because you would gain greatly from attending a good church.

It is my hope that you believe in God and long to understand more about Jesus. One thing you can be sure of is that God loves you and wants you to know His Son Jesus for yourself. Jesus died for you and is able to help you with your life in this world, as well as being able to give you eternal life in Heaven.

Jesus knew what it was like to experience rejection, so He understands how you feel.

He was despised and rejected by men;
a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief;
and as one from whom men hide their faces
he was despised, and we esteemed him not.
Surely he has borne our griefs
and carried our sorrows;
yet we esteemed him stricken,
smitten by God, and afflicted. (Isaiah 53:3-4)

Jesus bore our griefs and sorrows so that we would not have to deal with them alone. Even more importantly, He bore our sins.

But he was wounded for our transgressions;
he was crushed for our iniquities;
upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace,
and with his stripes we are healed.
All we like sheep have gone astray;
we have turned—every one—to his own way;
and the Lord has laid on him
the iniquity of us all. (Isaiah 53:5-6)

He took the punishment for your sins and mine, and He is willing to forgive us for our wrongdoing. All we have to do is to put our trust in Him as our Saviour and Lord.

I wonder have you ever come into this relationship with Christ? Have you trusted Him as your Saviour and only hope for this life and the next? If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you then please do watch the video on the main part of our site: Watch the video

With regard to what people will think of you, it is true that we are not able to be friends or get on with everybody. I hope that no-one at church would reject you for it but in any case, the important thing is what God thinks, and you can let God lead you in your life. He loves you regardless of who you are or what you have done and caring Christians will do the same.

I really hope that you will overcome your fears and start to involve yourself with your local church. It would be good to speak to a Christian leader or someone else at church whom you trust. They could help you to learn more about Jesus and I know they would be delighted to do so, offering you prayer and support as you continue your spiritual journey: Find a Church

Our prayer for you is the same as that of Saint Paul for the Christians at Ephesus:

For this reason I bow my knees before the Father...that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and ;grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. (Ephesians 3:14-19)

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