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Can God love someone who has been a christian before, who is a serial offender and always manages to fail in everything they do? How come the christians at church look on me as a failure and judge me when I am sure the bible says not to judge?
Thank you for sharing your situation and asking for advice.
Firstly the God of the Bible is described as:
The Lord is merciful and gracious,
slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love.
He will not always chide,
nor will he keep his anger forever.
He does not deal with us according to our sins,
nor repay us according to our iniquities.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him;
as far as the east is from the west,
so far does he remove our transgressions from us (Psalm 103:8-12)
The reason God can forgive us is because of Jesus. Jesus Christ died in our place for all of our sin. If we truly trust in Christ then he was punished for our sin and buried it. When Jesus rose again he gives new life to all who believe in Him. He also gives us the Holy Spirit as a promise of new life and the new life to come in heaven.
If you are a 'serial offender' today, the answer is the same today as when you first learnt about God. Repent, turn away from your sin and turn to God, trust in Him alone. The fact that you are aware of your wrong is a sign that God is at work in you.
Secondly you mention the Church. This is where people, who have all messed up and equally been forgiven by God, through faith in Jesus, are meant to be a family and care, nurture and love one another. You are right that it speaks against judging in the Bible. I believe this is one such passage:
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye" (Matthew 7:1-5).
Here Jesus is teaching his followers not to judge in a hypocritical way. The people are encouraged to look at their own lives first. This does not mean that we shouldn't ever judge anyone, but it should be done in a loving manner, making sure that we are not also guilty of the same thing. A true family church will speak lovingly into each other's lives because they know that it is better to speak the truth in love than to be silent. Consider this proverb:
Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend (Proverbs 7:5-6)
In summary, you can be forgiven and you can also be judged lovingly by a Church family.
I do hope this general answer to your question goes some way to helping you find peace with God through Jesus Christ our Lord. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site: www.lookingforGod.com
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