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My friend is going through a tough time. Should I meet up with them and ask to pray for them? They are not a Christian.


Thank you for asking your question. I’m sorry to hear that your friend is going through a tough time, but I am glad that you care for your friend and that you hope to see God working in their life.

You do not mention the details of your friend’s struggles, but if her safety and health are at risk, then we recommend that you contact the police for assistance.

The Bible makes it clear that we are to help others in their time of need. Jesus tells us that the second commandment is "'you shall love your neighbour as yourself.' There is no other commandment greater than these." (Mark 12:31). Love is not just an internal reflection, but it is also a physical act. The greatest physical act of love was Jesus dying on the cross, and we are able to show our love for others by helping in any physical way we can. Is there something physical that you can do to help your friend?

As Christians, we do not believe in coincidences. God has placed you where you are and may be prompting you to help your friend, both physically and spiritually through prayer. We know that we are able to pray for anything and anyone, including our non Christian friends; in fact, we even see Paul telling Timothy to pray for the Roman leaders, who were against Christianity. First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people, for kings and all who are in high positions, that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way. (1 Timothy 2:1-2).

Your prayers may be just what your friend needs!

I encourage you, with sensitivity, to speak to your friend and ask them if you can pray with them. The worst they could say is 'no', and they may say 'yes!'. If they say yes, pray with them for their encouragement and expect God to work wonders in their life. If they say no, then accept it with grace. Of course, you can always pray for a person in the privacy of your own home.

Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time. (Colossians 4:5).

When we reflect on our own lives, and the lives of every Christian, we can see that people were introduced to Jesus by someone else. A friend, colleague or family member spoke to us about Jesus, invited us to church or offered to pray for us. You may be the person God has chosen to speak to your friend about Him.

There may also be other ways that you can help your friend, although this may require wisdom and discernment as to whether it is helpful or appropriate. This could include a financial or other gift, providing transport to or from work, or any other number of ways. Pray to God for wisdom that He will show you how to help your friend.

In summary, God may have chosen you to speak to your friend about him; to tell your friend about Jesus. Pray for boldness and the right words to say. Offer to pray for your friend and be available to help them in any way necessary.

I hope this answer helps you to find peace with God through Jesus Christ. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site: Watch the video

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*All Scripture references are taken From The English Standard Version of the Holy Bible unless stated otherwise

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