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My friends in school are being horrible to me. I'm feeling distant from God and have stopped going to church. I need help.

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Thank you for your question. Being at school can be really hard work – and not just because of maths and science! Have you got a Christian Union at your school where you could go and get some support with your faith and start new, healthier friendships? People who really care about you don’t say mean things about you to other people; you might want to ask your friend why they’re doing that – maybe they’re reacting badly to something that has happened. Or maybe it’s time to move on from that friendship (that’s perfectly normal by the way, friendships sometimes need to come to an end).

With regard to your situation with church, I understand it can be very difficult when your family don’t share your faith, but the people at your church do, and they are the best people to offer you support in this area! You don’t have to do it by yourself. If there is a youth worker at your church, maybe you could ask them to pray with you or you could ask the pastor, or any church member you are comfortable talking to. I always find chatting and praying with older members of my church is great - they have so much life experience and good advice, and they care about what happens in your life.

If there’s not many young people at your church, maybe you could ask your pastor about other churches where you could meet people your age. I didn’t realise how many Christian people there were at my school until I attended a youth group at a bigger church near me! You never know, you might find people there that you can hang out with at school.

If you’re experiencing ‘prayer block’, why not try using some ready-made ones, like the Lord’s prayer:

"Pray then like this: “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.  Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.”" (Matthew 6:9-13)

You could also use some daily reading and prayer notes (popular ones include Our Daily Bread, Engage, and Charles Spurgeon’s Morning and Evening). Getting into the habit of spending time with God every day will build your relationship with Him. UCB, who own and operate LookingforGod, have a daily bible reading resource called The Word 4U 2Day, which you may enjoy reading. Please go to the website for more details: www.ucb.co.uk/word4u2day

I hope this advice is helpful to you. Our team will be praying for you. 

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