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Why do I always think people are out to get me? I tell lies and deceive people when things aren't going my way.


Thank you for contacting us with your question. I am so sorry that you are suffering such mental torment. You say that you feel that everyone is out to get you. I wonder whether you have talked to anyone about this? There are many things that you do not say, such as how old you are and whether you are in any trouble because of deceiving people. If you would like to contact us further about this, please feel free to do so. We also have a prayer line where someone can pray for and with you. The telephone number is given at the bottom of this answer.

I am wondering, too, whether you spend a lot of time alone, with these thoughts going around in your head? This is not good for you and will make matters worse. You need to talk to God and to those who can help you. Even though you may feel that you are not worth much, please remember that God created you because He knows you were worth creating; and He wants you to know Him and live forever with Him. He loves and values you. 

You admit that you have done wrong things and hurt people. The person you have hurt most, though, is God. You can start putting things right by admitting your wrongdoing to Him and asking for His forgiveness. He gave His Son, Jesus, to die for you and because of Him, you can become God's friend. 

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life." (John 3:16)

For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die—  but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:6-8)

You know that you are weak. The good news is that God loves you anyway and will come into your life if you trust Christ. Jesus says to you,

"Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me." (Revelation 3:16)

Invite Him into your life. Become a forgiven sinner. If you need help to do this, remember our prayer line.

With God in your life as your friend, you will be more able to face and deal with your problems.

Your second line of defence will be to get the help of other people. It may be that you need professional counselling. Your doctor may be able to help you find this kind of help. 

I want to encourage you to find a local church, learn more about God and talk to the minster or another trusted person there. Hopefully, you will also be able to make friends there and be less isolated. Of course, if you lie or become suspicious of people, you will prevent this from happening, so make sure you get help with your problems. But, please, do something. Take action and don't just brood.

To sum up, you need help from God and from His people. You will not be able to solve your problems on your own.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.(Philippians 4:5-6)

I do hope this general answer to your question goes some way to helping you find peace with God through Jesus Christ our Lord. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site:

In closing, let me encourage you again to get more involved with your local church. It would be good to speak to a Christian leader or another trusted church individual regarding your question. I know they would be delighted to further answer you as well as offer prayer and support as you continue your spiritual journey:

Please use our Interactive Answer Matrix and feel free to ask another question. Our helpful staff are praying for you and waiting to try and answer to you from the Bible, and will be delighted to tell you more about Jesus Christ the Lord, the Saviour of the world.

Here are some more Bible verses for you to think about; even better, get a New Testament and read some of it every day, asking God to speak to you through it.

  • Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
        and do not lean on your own understanding.
     In all your ways acknowledge him,
        and he will make straight your paths.
     Be not wise in your own eyes;
        fear the Lord, and turn away from evil.
     It will be healing to your flesh[b]
        and refreshment[c] to your bones. (Proverbs 3: 5-8)
  • And you were dead in the trespasses and sins  in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience—  among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind.  But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us,  even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved—  and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus,  so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness towards us in Christ Jesus.  For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, 9 not a result of works, so that no one may boast.  For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. (Ephesians 2:1-10)

*All Scripture references are taken From The English Standard Version of the Holy Bible unless stated otherwise

*If anything in this answer affects you directly, then please feel free to call our confidential prayer line in the UK on 0845 4567729, where trained Christian volunteers will take your call and pray both for you and with you. If you are outside of the UK then you may submit your request for prayer on line at

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