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As a Christian I struggle in school. Other Christians are older or really horrible. I've met some nice non-Christian people but I don't want to follow their characteristics.


Thank you for sharing your story and asking for advice on these issues. This sounds like a very similar situation that I faced while in school.

To get the most out of time with other Christians in school I would like to encourage you to explore the possibility of setting up (with help from others) either:

  • A Christian Union in the school. This can take place once per week at a lunch break. Ask to use an empty class room. Play a game together. Read the Bible together. Discuss it. Pray for each other and the school. You may also be able to invite local Church leaders/youth leaders in to share a story or lesson.
  • A joint local youth Church meeting outside of school. This will hopefully help draw together the youth that attend your school and help you make friendships and strengthen each other's faith.
  • Or both!

If you find some of the people who attend to be "really horrible", perhaps this social interaction, bible study and prayer will help them to be more like Jesus over time. Try and find out why they are horrible; they may have a lot of personal issues. Pray for them and, if possible, try to befriend them.

Regarding your non-believing friends, it is okay to be friends with them. This is a question and challenge that all Christians face. It is good to have friends to love them and to try to show Jesus to them but also not getting involved with any sinful behaviour. Please consider the words that Jesus said:

"I am praying for them. I am not praying for the world but for those whom you have given me, for they are yours. All mine are yours, and yours are mine, and I am glorified in them. And I am no longer in the world, but they are in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father, keep them in your name, which you have given me, that they may be one, even as we are one. While I was with them, I kept them in your name, which you have given me. I have guarded them, and not one of them has been lost except the son of destruction, that the Scripture might be fulfilled. But now I am coming to you, and these things I speak in the world, that they may have my joy fulfilled in themselves. I have given them your word, and the world has hated them because they are not of the world, just as I am not of the world. I do not ask that you take them out of the world, but that you keep them from the evil one. They are not of the world, just as I am not of the world. Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth. As you sent me into the world, so I have sent them into the world. And for their sake I consecrate myself, that they also may be sanctified in truth.
 “I do not ask for these only, but also for those who will believe in me through their word, that they may all be one, just as you, Father, are in me, and I in you, that they also may be in us, so that the world may believe that you have sent me. The glory that you have given me I have given to them, that they may be one even as we are one, I in them and you in me, that they may become perfectly one, so that the world may know that you sent me and loved them even as you loved me. Father, I desire that they also, whom you have given me, may be with me where I am, to see my glory that you have given me because you loved me before the foundation of the world. O righteous Father, even though the world does not know you, I know you, and these know that you have sent me. I made known to them your name, and I will continue to make it known, that the love with which you have loved me may be in them, and I in them". (John 17:9-26)

If your friends cause you to sin, perhaps spending less time with them is wise. If you are able to be with them and not sin, then carry on! The best result would be if you can begin to influence them by living like Jesus and they start following Jesus too!

I do hope this general answer to your question goes some way to helping you find peace with God through Jesus Christ our Lord. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site:

In closing, I want to encourage you to get more involved with your local church. It would be good to speak to a Christian leader or another trusted church individual regarding your question. I know they would be delighted to further answer you as well as offer prayer and support as you continue your spiritual journey:

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