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What do you do if your friends make fun of you being a Christian and they say God is useless?

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Thank you for asking such a sensitive question. As a Christian this is something that I have also experienced. At the age of 15 I started to follow Christ and a lot of my friends and family did not like it. Some did not directly make fun of me but others did. My girlfriend at the time called me a bible basher and broke up with me. Other friends mocked me and made fun of my new faith. Even my own Dad would say 'practise what you preach' every time I did something wrong. People were ready to make fun of me at any stage.

One of Jesus' closest followers called John warned his Church that things like this, and even worse things, may happen: Do not be surprised, brothers, that the world hates you (1 John 3:13).

If the people of the world hated Jesus and even killed him, should we be surprised that they may also dislike Jesus' followers and make fun of them? Jesus was mocked and his followers have been mocked ever since.

This does not mean that we should respond in the same way. Consider Jesus' words:

"You have heard that it was said, 'An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.' But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you.
You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbour and hate your enemy.' But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you" (Matthew 5:38-44)

If someone hits us, we should not hit back, but turn the other way and pray for them. We should give extra when they take from us; we should go the extra mile. Jesus is calling his followers to radical love because we have been so freely loved by Jesus and so we do not need to hate people or try to gain their love or respect. We are free to serve and love, even those people who are nasty to us. This is a very hard thing to do, but with Jesus' help through the Holy Spirit it is possible. We are to love our enemies!

Jesus also says:

"Blessed are you who weep now, for you shall laugh. Blessed are you when people hate you and when they exclude you and revile you and spurn your name as evil, on account of the Son of Man! Rejoice in that day, and leap for joy, for behold, your reward is great in heaven; for so their fathers did to the prophets" (Luke 6:21-23)

If you are getting made fun of for following Jesus, your reward in heaven will be great!

Here are some practical tips:

  1. Do not respond with anger
  2. Pray for your friends
  3. Realise you will be going to heaven one day
  4. It is okay to not purposefully hang out with people who may persecute you, if you have 'friends' who are constantly nasty, perhaps it is not worth spending a lot of time with them
  5. Tell your friends and family in Church about what is happening
  6. If they are causing you lots of problems speak to the school/authorities about it. There is no place for bullying in today's society
  7. Defend the faith! We are also encouraged to say why God is good in our lives:

"And when they bring you before the synagogues and the rulers and the authorities, do not be anxious about how you should defend yourself or what you should say, for the Holy Spirit will teach you in that very hour what you ought to say" (Luke 12:11-12)
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Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing. For
 "Whoever desires to love life
and see good days,
let him keep his tongue from evil
and his lips from speaking deceit;
 let him turn away from evil and do good;
let him seek peace and pursue it.
 For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous,
and his ears are open to their prayer.
But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil."
 Now who is there to harm you if you are zealous for what is good? But even if you should suffer for righteousness' sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled, but in your hearts honour Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defence to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behaviour in Christ may be put to shame. For it is better to suffer for doing good, if that should be God's will, than for doing evil.
 For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but made alive in the spirit (1 Peter 3:9-18)

Jesus has done such wonderful things for us, we need to be ready to tell people about him! Remember your friends need Jesus too, so do not keep him to yourself. Try and lovingly tell them about how amazing he is when they are making fun. Why not tell them to come and visit this website?

I hope this answer helps you to find peace with God through Jesus Christ. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site: Watch the video

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