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I was alone for many years but now I've met someone. Is it a sin for older people to be together?


Thank you for your question about relationships. 

You do not mention in your question whether you have been married before, or whether you have been single and are now in your first long term relationship. In either case, I hope that this answer can help you. 

I am pleased to hear that you are in a relationship and that you want to make sure that this relationship is grounded in God's plan, rather than in sin. I first, then, want to encourage you that being in a relationship, at any age, is not sinful. However, biblically, all forms of relationships are steps toward marriage. 

God speaks highly of marriage but there is a general principle that people should only marry in the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:39). This is to say, that your relationship and, God willing, your marriage, is to be rooted in God. 

Regardless as to our age, sexual temptation can come to all of us, and therefore it is important that you flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18). Paul writes that because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband (1 Corinthians 7:2) and that it is better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:9). However, marriage is not to be entered into lightly, but with an understanding that it is a blessing given to us by God. 

Again, make sure that your relationship is in Christ, that you pray together, that you read the scriptures together, that you attend church together. 

I would encourage you to speak to your church leadership about this issue. I'm sure they would be willing to support and encourage you as you and your companion want to move forward. There may be other people in your congregation that met and married later in life, as well as other married couples who can encourage you in your relationship.

In summary, relationships are not sinful at any age, but we must make sure that we do not sin in our relationship. We are to flee from sexual temptation and to make sure that God is at the centre of our relationships. 

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