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My parents put me under a lot of pressure and our relationship is not good. How can I have a better relationship with my parents?


Thank you for your question regarding your family. I am sorry to hear that your relationship with your parents is currently strained. It is my hope that you will have peace with your family. 

Without knowing you or your circumstances, it is fair to assume that our parents want what is best for us, as this is the norm. Our parents love us and want us to achieve great things. However this pressure, however slight, can often create tension. 

Paul, quoting one of the Ten Commandments, writes: Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honour your father and mother" (this is the first commandment with a promise), "that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land." (Ephesians 6:1-3). He goes on to instruct Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). 

This is not to say that your father (or mother) are in the wrong if you are angry, but it recognises that we are all fallen individuals but yet we still try to live the life that God intends for us. Regardless, we are instructed to honour our father and mother. To honour is to show respect to who they are and what they have done. Think and reflect on the good things your family have done: giving you clothing, food, a home and love, to name a few. 

Just as we do with every situation, I encourage you to ask God for the forgiveness of your sin and turn your life back toward him. Also though, it is important that you ask your family for forgiveness too. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed (James 5:16). By doing this, we believe you will have peace with your family and peace with God. 

In summary, our parents love us and want what is best for us. As a result of them wanting the best for us, this can create tension. It is important that we continue to shown honour and respect to our parents, especially when this is most difficult for us to do. I encourage you to apologise to your parents, allowing you to move forward in a stronger relationship, and to repent of your sin and live your life for God. 

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