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Does Marriage matter? What does the Bible have to say about it?


Thank you for this honest and interesting question about marriage. The Bible is full of stories about people getting married and ultimately about human marriage being a reflection of how God wants people to relate to him.

The first marriage recorded in the Bible was between Adam and Eve, our first parents. However, Ephesians 5:31-32 refers to this as an illustration of a deeper and eternal relationship between Jesus Christ and all who will be saved: "For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two of them shall be one flesh". This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. We see that in heaven God's people will take part in the marriage of the Church to Jesus

"Let us be glad and rejoice and we will give glory to Him. For the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has prepared herself." (Revelation 19:7). In this passage the Lamb is Jesus and the wife is the Church.

God does want us to be married, then - but not necessarily to another human! He wants us to be married ultimately to Christ. All human marriage is a reflection of Christ’s marriage to the Church. Therefore can we first encourage you to make your relationship with Christ be like a marriage. Obviously there is no sexual element to this relationship, but the Bible clearly shows us that Christ is to be closer than a spouse. One of the leaders of the early Church actually wrote that it is good to remain single as he was so that he could devote his life to God. This can be seen in 1 Corinthians 7:8. Therefore can we encourage you to be united to Christ and put your trust in his saving death and resurrection so you can be united to God. Our main website discusses more about this and how you can pray to start this relationship with God.

Regarding human marriage the Bible also talks a lot about this subject. It encourages people who are in a loving relationship to get married. Nearly all accounts of marriage in the Bible was arranged marriage. In fact the first human marriage between Adam and Eve can be found in Genesis 2:20-23 where God literally made them for each other.

God has designed man and woman to be in a loving relationship called marriage or to be single.

Today there are many different types of relationship between people. People can have “one night stands”, cohabit, casual sex, long term unmarried relationships, multiple relationships at the same time, same sex relationships, bisexual relationships etc. The Bible only speaks of two types of relationship between a man and a woman: either that they are both single and therefore not participating in sexual relations with anyone or they are married to a spouse of the opposite sex. Husbands are commanded to love their wife as Christ loves the Church and serves her (See Ephesians 5:25).

In summary, marriage matters immensely to God because it is a reflection of his relationship of the Church that he loves and will never leave or cheat on. Marriage between two people is meant to reflect this lifelong commitment of safety and security where a family can grow.

Here are some more Bible Verses for your further consideration:

  • Genesis 3:20-23
  • Ephesians 5:31-32
  • Revelation 19:7

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