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I am a born again Christian but my husband converted to another religion a few years ago. How should I live as a Christian in an interfaith marriage?

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Thank you for your question. I am so sorry to hear about your situation. Be assured that we are praying for you.

Your situation is clearly very difficult but I am pleased that you still recognise Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. I encourage you to continue to hold fast to God, that he may guide and comfort you during this time. 

Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession (Hebrews 4:14)

Although your husband may have converted to another faith a few years ago, this does not mean that all is lost. God still loves your husband and desires that he make a repentance and place his trust in Jesus as his Lord and Saviour. 

The Lord is not slow to fulfil his promise as some count slowness, but is patient towards you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance (2 Peter 3:9)

Throughout the past there have been times where faithful spouses have prayed for their loved ones. Sometimes, even over many years, God softens the heart of the unbelieving spouse and draws them to himself. 

I encourage you to pray for your husband every day, that overtime he may be drawn to the saving good news of Jesus Christ.

May you seek God for his help and guidance during this time, that he may show you the way you are to proceed. As we read: trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).

For our comfort and guidance God has written in his word on this subject. Although these words are difficult to read and process, I pray that you will meditate on them and the God who knows all things will, in his perfect wisdom, give you strength. 

If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. (1 Corinthians 7:15-16).

Here Paul writes that couples of mixed faith should continue to be married as long as both parties agree to it. However, if the partner who does not follow Jesus decides that he no longer wants to be married to a Christian, then we are told to 'let it be so'. I appreciate these are not easy words to read. However, the encouragement is that 'the unbelieving spouse is made holy by the believing spouse', meaning that your witness can help your husband to believe. 

It is vitally important that you have the support of your local church leaders. Speak to them about your situation and allow them to assign someone to you who you can speak to and pray with at any time. 

Finally, I pray that you will continue to be a shining light for Jesus in your marriage; that you would be a powerful witness for the gospel. Jesus tells us: "In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven" (Matthew 5:16). We are also told to be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might (Ephesians 6:10). 

In summary, may you continue to lift up your husband in prayer, that over time he may come to recognise Jesus as his Lord and Saviour. God understands your situation and for as long as you are married, may you be a witness to your husband that stands firm in the truth and light of the gospel. 

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*All Scripture references are taken From The English Standard Version of the Holy Bible unless stated otherwise

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