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My husband left me after only a few months. I'm now old and alone. Why did God not bless my marriage?

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Thank you for your honest question. I am sorry to hear that your marriage broke down. I hope this short answer will encourage you and give you hope for the future.

Firstly there is no age limit in the Bible to knowing and walking through life with God. People of all ages are called to love God and love their neighbour. Do you know God through Jesus Christ? I want to ask you this: What do you see life purpose as? It cannot be just to get married.

In the Westminster Confession, written in the seventeenth century, theologians taught that the most important thing is this:

Man's chief end is to glorify God (see 1 Corinthians 10:31), and to enjoy him for ever!

My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever (Psalm 73:25-26).

Relationships with other people are nowhere near as important as your own relationship with God. God loves you so much that He sent His own Son to die for you and give you a purpose. If you feel you have none, I implore you to consider your walk with God. There are hundreds of ways that you can enjoy serving God whether you are older or younger.

Many people in the Bible did amazing things for God even in old age:

"And now, behold, I am this day eighty-five years old. I am still as strong today as I was in the day that Moses sent me" (Joshua 14:11)

Moses and Aaron did so; they did just as the Lord commanded them. Now Moses was eighty years old, and Aaron eighty-three years old, when they spoke to Pharaoh (Exodus 7:6)

Secondly it is not God's fault that your marriage has suffered problems. He has told us how to go about having a decent marriage. It is up to us to prayerfully walk through life with God and trying to make a marriage work. Marriage is hard to make happen and keep because ultimately it is two broken people trying to live together. Sadly, around 50% of marriages break up in the UK. Not a single one of these is God's fault. In fact God does not like divorce:

Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, "Is it lawful to divorce one's wife for any cause?" He answered, "Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate" (Matthew 19:3-6).

I wish to emphasise that we are not blaming you either, but it is important for us to recognise that this is not God's fault. Please do not blame God for the breakdown of your marriage.

God has given us the Bible which talks a lot about how marriage should be between man and woman; He wants it to work. I believe God is upset about your marriage breakdown, just as you are. This is ultimately because marriage is about Jesus and the Church. The First marriage was between Jesus and His Church. All marriages since then are mirrors reflecting this marriage. One day God's people will be united to Jesus in heaven.

"Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:31-32)

Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away."
And he who was seated on the throne said, "Behold, I am making all things new" (Revelation 21:1-5)

In summary, do not blame God for your situation, but turn to him for new life in Jesus Christ. I encourage you to seek God for your life's purpose, that He may show you the way He wants you to live.

I hope this answer helps you to find peace with God through Jesus Christ. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site: Watch the video

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*All Scripture references are taken From The English Standard Version of the Holy Bible unless stated otherwise

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