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I have been praying for good things but we are unlucky. None of our dreams come true. Why isn't God blessing us?
Thank you for submitting your question and its honesty. In this answer, we will try to approach the main issues that I suspect are behind this question.
Let me first begin by saying that it's very normal to have to wait as a Christian. Waiting is part of what it means to be a child of God. We are waiting for heaven. We are waiting for total freedom from sin. We are waiting for new bodies (Romans 8:23). We are waiting to be with Jesus forever (2 Corinthians 5:1-10). Hebrews 11 says a lot about waiting; all of the saints of the past had to wait, and none of them ever saw what God had promised them. God's promise of eternal blessing and paradise is beyond this life. Paradise is not now.
Today, on the contrary, a lot of false teaching abounds which basically tells us that we don't need to wait, even that we can demand something from God; that we can summon Him to come now and give us a happy life and give us health and material blessings and even paradise now. This is not God's way, and God does not promise us such things.
Sometimes God does give us a measure of happiness in this world. Some Christians are very blessed materially. But this isn't the norm. Jesus said, "Blessed are the poor in spirit ... blessed are those who mourn ... blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake ... blessed are you when people persecute you and insult you and say all manner of evil against you falsely for My sake. Rejoice and be glad! Because great is your reward in heaven" (Matthew 5:1-12).
Jesus is saying that the lives of the 'blessed' (Christians) are more likely to be characterised by misery now than by happiness. This does not mean we won't have a deep-seated joy, and a real peace in our souls from the Lord. It does not mean we should not rejoice our way through life, because we certainly should and by God's grace we can no matter what. Paul did (Philippians 4:4), but it does mean our lives are likely to be basically unhappy, characterised by mourning, poverty of spirit, brokenness, and persecution from those who don't know God. But when we experience such sufferings, Jesus tells us to lift up our heads and rejoice and be glad, not because we are living 'the good life' now, but because our reward in heaven will be great!
The New Testament writers, like Jesus, constantly want to shift our focus away from this world and towards heaven. Since then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on things on the earth (Colossians 3:1-2). Living by faith in Jesus is about looking forward to the world to come, not to our lives now. I know that this is hard – more than that – it's impossible! But what is impossible with people is possible with God (Matthew 19:26). God can help us to set our gaze on the unseen things to come, and to stop looking at the things below.
If you are trusting and resting only in Jesus Christ, you have nothing to fear about your life and your children's lives. Life may not be full of material blessing. Life may not be full of the kinds of things the world tells us we need and should enjoy. Life may be full of sadness and unfulfilled dreams. But Jesus has promised to meet all your needs. So you don't need to worry.
Sometimes what we think we need and what we actually need are two very different things. The Lord knows what you need. Leave it to Jesus to supply your needs.
Now for a considerable issue: what you see as 'unlucky' is actually simply part of God's thoroughly good plan for you. The Bible teaches that nothing evil ever comes near God's people – ever. The LORD shall protect you from all evil (Psalm 121:7). Notice it is not a promise, it is a statement of fact regarding those who belong to God, which means you don't even have to believe it for it to be true.
If you belong to Christ, He will protect you from all evil, even if you struggle to believe it. His word is sufficient on this matter. Read the words in the scriptures: No evil shall befall you, neither shall any plague come near your tent (Psalm 91:10). The angel of the LORD encamps around those who fear Him, and delivers them (Psalm 34:7). There is no want for those who fear Him ... those who seek the LORD lack no good thing (Psalm 34:10-11).
Jesus Himself teaches that if you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask Him! (Matthew 7:11). Similarly Psalm 84:11 tells us that the LORD never withholds anything good from us.
There are two ways to respond to this biblical teaching. The first way is to say, 'These statements can't really be taken literally. I have to use my reason. I've gone through lots of evil. I've suffered a great deal. Everything unfortunate happens to me. These things must be generally true, but not true all the time.'
The second is the better way, the way of faith. Faith says: 'Regardless of what my mind tells me, my reason tells me, my memory tells me, God expects me to believe these passages. Therefore, I lack no good thing. God only ever gives me good gifts, even if they appear terrible now. No evil ever comes near me, no plague ever sets foot in my tent.' This second option obviously requires us to re-shift our thinking about what 'evil' and 'unluckiness' actually are. But I think that is what the Bible requires us to do. In other words:
If you are in Jesus, things may seem 'unlucky' and bad, but you and your family are not unlucky in reality. You are actually lacking no good thing from a loving heavenly Father.
Ultimately, all Christians are best off to believe this fact about their lives, no matter what sight, reason or anybody might tell them. For we walk by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). It is far better to rest on God's word than to listen to what our minds, our eyes and reason tell us. God knows how best to define what 'evil' is, and whatever it is, it can never touch us. If it were a better thing for the LORD to take away some of your hardships, then don't you think He would? Nothing evil is touching you; God is only sending good things your way.
Here are some more Bible Verses for your further consideration:
- Matthew 5:1-12
- Colossians 3:1-4
- Psalm 37
- Psalm 23
- Matthew 6:25-34
- Psalm 84:11
- Psalm 34:10-11
- Philippians 3:7-14
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