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Why has God never helped me?
Thank you for your question. Whilst you have not gone into any detail I sense that you have had a situation where you have asked God to help you in a situation, perhaps more than one, and it appears that He has not answered in the way that you hoped. I, and no doubt many others, can identify with that experience.
Firstly, we can become frustrated and disappointed with God because He does not do what we want. Yet the first thing we need to remember is that God’s primary concern is not with our earthly happiness but our eternal and spiritual welfare. He does not exist to serve our wants as though He were some "Mr Fix It" in the sky or a genie that grants our every wish. He does not exist to serve our selfishness but rather He has put a plan in place to deliver us from our selfishness. Selfishness is the definition of sin and as a holy God He hates sin and thus hates selfishness.
Secondly the truth is that God has helped you. He just hasn’t helped you in the specific way that you would like. Just because God does not appear to have helped you in some specific situations does not mean that He does not love you and has not helped you. In the Bible we are told: The God who made the world and everything in it, being Lord of heaven and earth, does not live in temples made by man, nor is He served by human hands, as though He needed anything, since He Himself gives to all mankind, life and breath and everything (Acts 17:24-25). There may be things we don’t have and want, and yet we are taught here that everything we do have, from our life to the very breath in our bodies, has been given us by God. Everything you possess is evidence of God’s help. He helps us every day in ways that perhaps we don’t usually recognise or realise.
Thirdly, God has helped you, and indeed all of us whoever we may be, in a very specific and special way. That specific and special way was by providing His one and only Son, Jesus Christ, as a Saviour for us. Due to our sin and the condemnation that comes with it we needed someone to rescue us, to set us free from our selfishness and reconcile us to God, that we might truly know Him as He intended – as a loving heavenly Father who has our best interests at heart.
In order for this forgiveness to be available to us Christ left His Father’s side in heaven, came to earth where we were, became a human being like us, and then went through death at the cross on our behalf; death being the penalty for sin. In the Bible we read: But God shows His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8). Due to this great act of love, this amazing help that Christ has given to us all the following promise is given to us all: Whoever believes in Him (Christ) may have eternal life (John 3:15). Through trusting in Christ we can be forgiven, be given eternal life - the life of God - and come to know God as our own heavenly Father and spiritual Shepherd.
In summary whilst it may appear that God is not helping us as we would want in some situations that we face, the truth of the matter is that He helps us every day and most importantly has loved and helped us by providing His Son as a Saviour for us. Through trusting Christ we can be forgiven of our selfishness and come to know God as our Father. However as a loving father He doesn’t grant every wish presented by His children.
I do hope this general answer to your question goes some way to helping you find peace with God through Jesus Christ our Lord. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site: www.lookingforGod.com
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Here are some more Bible Verses for your further consideration:
- Romans 5:9-11
- Romans 6:23
- John 3:16
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