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I have invited Jesus as my personal Lord and Saviour. However, I am lonely. Why has God let me be alone? I want to be loved.


Thank you for this honest testimony. I am so delighted to hear that you have recently started following Jesus Christ and that you are enjoying life with him. I am also sorry to hear that your singleness is causing you pain.

The Bible does speak directly into this subject:

Now as a concession, not a command, I say this. I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.
To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:6-9)

This passage is saying that marriage and singleness are both gifts from God. It also says that wanting to get married for certain reasons is not a bad thing. I would encourage you to try and find ways to enjoy your single life and also pursue a relationship if you feel led that way. Paul was single. Jesus was single. Many of his followers were and are single. It is not a bad thing.

I also want to address that it is not God's fault that you are single. Instead of blaming him or being angry towards him, I would encourage you to pray and enjoy your time with him at the centre; trust him. Ultimately life decisions like relationships are something that we have the ability to choose. God does not prescribe a partner for each person.

I hope to also encourage you towards speaking to your Church leadership about this matter. We will pray for you.

I do hope this general answer to your question goes some way to helping you find peace with God through Jesus Christ our Lord. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site:

In closing, I want to encourage you to get more involved with your local church. It would be good to speak to a Christian leader or another trusted church individual regarding your question. I know they would be delighted to further answer you as well as offer prayer and support as you continue your spiritual journey:

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*All Scripture references are taken From The English Standard Version of the Holy Bible unless stated otherwise

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