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I am battling with an addiction to sex. I have prayed but nothing seems to be working. I even wonder if I am cursed to be this way.
Thank you for asking such an honest question. Many of us are tempted to hide our struggles away and live life as if we never find anything difficult. Others minimise struggles and argue that battling sin isn’t an issues because sin isn’t an issue. Through your question it’s clear to see you’re doing neither of these things, but owning up to your difficulties, which is commendable.
My first response would be to make sure that you are a Christian. Any help or advice I might be able to offer would be dependant on being in Christ. The Bible doesn't offer any hope for freedom from sin to those who are still under the power of sin. It's encouraging that you want to battle this addiction (perhaps a clue that the Holy Spirit is convicting you) but the Bible is clear that before someone is a Christian they are 'slaves to sin' (see Romans 6).
If you aren't a Christian then can I suggest taking a look at some of our other resources which will help explain why and how you can become a Christian, especially the video on the main part of our website.
That being said, if you are a Christian, then there is good news! As much as a 'slave' to sin that we are before Christ, we are a slave to Him and righteousness after we come to Christ. Those who are in Christ are at last free to pursue righteousness (see Titus 2:11-14).
The Bible though never makes the promise, or even the suggestion, that a Christian can be perfect this side of heaven. In fact most of the New Testament letters are written to encourage a church filled with people still struggling with sin. The penalty of sin has been removed by Jesus' life, death & resurrection, so too has its power, but its presence is still a very real thing until Jesus returns.
There's no magic formula for beating besetting sin, but there is hope as Romans 8:26 points out that the Holy Spirit is helping us in our weakness. Moreover there is no substitute for the input, encouragement and accountability of a local church and other Christians. Nowhere does the Bible suggest we should be trying to deal with such issues on our own. In fact Galatians 6:2 suggests the very opposite: we need fellow Christians to constantly be upholding us and encouraging us if we're to grow in our faith and holiness.
In summary, if you're not a Christian, the only hope you have is Jesus who defeats sin and death on our behalf. If you haven't trusted in Him then that is the most important place to start. If you have trusted Him please be certain that you are not cursed; Jesus became our curse so that we could become His righteousness. Know that the Holy Spirit is at work in you and that God has given us the gift of fellow believers in a local church who can share, encourage and exhort us in our pursuit of holiness.
The Apostle Paul knew what it was to battle sin and fall, but he also knew what it was to be saved by Jesus! (Romans 7:21-25)
I do hope this general answer to your question goes some way to helping you find peace with God through Jesus Christ our Lord. If you want to know more about what Jesus has done for you please watch the video on the main part of our site: www.lookingforGod.com
In closing, I want to encourage you to get more involved with your local church. It would be good to speak to a Christian leader or another trusted church individual regarding your question. I know they would be delighted to further answer you as well as offer prayer and support as you continue your spiritual journey:
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